Do women feel guilty about not having sex on Valentine's Day? Do
they feel pressure from their partner to have more sex? According to
women surveyed by the TheNest.com 2012 Sex Survey, yes and yes. To
uncover what's really going on behind bedroom doors, TheNest.com,
a lifestyle site for young couples, surveyed more than 500 women who
shared their biggest sex distractions and turnoffs, where they're having
sex and whether they feel society puts any added pressure on them to
have more or less sex.
"Whoever said married women lose interest in their sex lives didn't talk
to our members," says Carley Roney, editor in chief of TheNest.com.
"This tell-all survey featured on TheNest.com reveals everything from
how often married couples are having sex - and more important, how
satisfied they are - to whether they're still attracted to their
partners and whether they think about cheating."
TheNest.com 2012 Sex Survey Highlighted Results
Quality over quantity? 32% of couples have sex only two times or
less per month. In fact, 13% only have sex once a month or less! Not
surprisingly then, more than half of women (56%) say they wish they had
sex more often.
Techy distractions. So what's the biggest distraction from sex in
the bedroom? The boob tube is taking away from boob time, with 16% of
couples getting distracted from sex by their TV. Other offenders? Pets
in the bedroom, with 13% of couples weirded out when their pets are
nearby. For others, 12% are distracted by their cell phones. Sometimes,
technology isn't a good thing.
Fake it 'til you make it. So when they are having sex...more
than 3 out of 10 women (36%) don't even orgasm every time. In fact, 1 in
10 women say they're faking it and their partner doesn't even know it.
Maybe questionable hygiene or awkward groping are the culprits? They're
the biggest turnoffs to 26% and 21% of women.
Cheating's on the mind. 1 in 10 married women (11%) have thought
about cheating on their spouse. At the same time, nearly 1 in 10 (8%)
are less attracted to their partners now that they're married, and 18%
say they have had better sex with other partners than their spouse.
Sex isn't as adventurous as some steamy sex scenes make it out to be.76%
have never had sex in the kitchen, and 93% have never had sex in the
office. Looks like the sexy romp in the supply closet after hours might
actually be just a fantasy for most. So while the majority keep it to
the bedroom, almost half of couples (45%) are having sex in their living
rooms. Hopefully those couch cushions are getting a regular dry-cleaning!
Chatty Cathys. We all love to talk about our sex lives, but to
whom are women talking? While the majority talk to friends, a shocking 1
in 10 (8%) gab to their mothers. Also surprising? Just because they're
not having sex in the office doesn't mean they're not talking about it -
15% of women talk to their coworkers about their sex lives.
Do special occasions matter? One in four married couples didn't
have sex on their wedding night because they were too tired.
Luckily, 74% of women say their wedding anniversary usually results in
sex, compared with 67% who say the same for Valentine's Day. But how do
they feel about this? Well, 41% of women say they feel guilty if they
don't have sex on days that mark a special occasion.
How much is enough? 37% of women feel pressured by society and
friends to have more sex with their partner. Plus, 36% also felt
this pressure from their partner.
To help couples keep their sex lives sizzling, TheNest.com has a Love
& Sex channel where you can find:
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formerly The Knot Inc., a global media and technology leader devoted to
weddings, pregnancy and everything in between, providing young women
with the trusted information, products and advice they need to guide
them through the most transformative events of their lives.
Stephanie Fraiman, 212-515-3595